For me and my daughter - it's when at 3 years old she finally eats some salad because she wants to.
It's her reading a book to her little sister and then running races with her.
It's her giving kisses to her toy baby while laying her down for a nap and telling her, "I love you" after just nursing her.
It's teaching her sister her newly acquired vaccuum-fixing skills.
What do they all have in common? They all exemplify nourishing her mind, body, and spirit. It's setting her up for a lifetime of success--of health and happiness and love and growth and service by role modeling.
It's the best gift a parent could ever give to their child and the community - not by coercion or force, but through encouragement and permission.
What kind of wins are you working towards? How will you know when you have been successful?